One of my clients comes for his tantra-lite appointment wearing hard soled shoes but this time he had on tennis shoes, and it made me so happy to see him walking comfortablly, as well as knowing that communicating about pleasure really helps others.

He had always said to me that he has leg and back pains. I mentioned to him a few times that he might want to try wearing more comfortable shoes.  and he said " na na na, my shoes are comfortable" So I gathered that the therapeutic approach was not going to work for him.

I heard his words but I also heard the hard soles of his shoes hitting the had floor everytime he takes a step. So what is a Tantrika to do?   ahhhhhhhhhh.. use his Tantric best self!

At the end of our last appointment. I said.. "you know what would please me most? If you would wear tennis shoes to our next session.. that would really be a great turn on for me"

So there you have it.. sometimes the therapeutic approach is not enough, pleasure communicates powerfully... and sometimes its about the clients pleasure, sometimes it is about mine.. but it is always about pleasure. for sure!